I hate to. But I have to agree.
I am one of those who love combat games and has played them ever since, but generally sucks at combat a LOT. I mean I'm even too dumb for M&B Warband on easiest settings against training dummies although I played that game for... can't even remember how long.
Anyway the point is: For people like the OPs and me, who love to fight but just suck at it "in RL" (poor reaction, panic-pressing-wrong-buttons, not wanting to waste half the playtime memorizing complicated combos and complex buttons, and so on) this game combat system is insanely frustrating. Sorry.
Just like the OPs, stats or not, I also haven't been able to achieve just ANYthing combat wise. Okay I managed a few times to kill an armored guard to grab some loot but that was a) mostly after 20+ attempts and b) lucky win by just panic-slashing until, half dead, I somehow killed him. But that was nowhere near skill or purposely used swings and parrys.
Long story short, I think what the OPs and I are saying is: We love your dedication for the combat system, the strong focus on absolute realism and support it, but we feel that you, in all that thinking for realism, forgot the casual gamer who sucks at combat and is simply not good enough for such a very, very complex combat system. I mean making a realistic system doesn't mean it has to be a complex one, in terms of the way it works.
Just like anyone else I want to enjoy the game, steal, talk, fight, etc. but right now, fighting is really frustrating and hurting my fingers (seriously? blocking on Q? how the heck am I supposed to block and move to the left at the same time with the same finger??? lol. Almost broke my fingers trying during training. If I will eventually, I'm sueing you. ) Thus, just like some OPs, I stopped playing the alpha really quick and after only a few hours, I'm already somewhat annoyed of the beta, lol. It's a shame, really, it's really, really a shame. Please hear us and think over maybe adding a "easy version for dummies" to switch to for idiots like us.
Thank you, have a nice day, see you, byebye.