Life being a journey ’ the only fish that go with the current are the dead ones '.
That you have reflection that what you are going through isnt right -is proof that your mind WILL get you through this - it is seeking change.
(Always darkest before the dawn).
Tests like what you are going through / challenges, are gow we measure our growth.
That restlessness is what is needed to see you through it. It motivates towards change.
M Scott Peck - the road less travelled
One of the most important handbooks for life- (yes - one exisits!)
The author is sharing accumulated wisdom from a lifetime of giving the exact help you are seeking.
It will be reassuring to know you are not alone- just presently going through a crysis.
Please pickup that book. I have a few copies but am at opp edge of world so posting would take a long time. (Takes ten days just posting across my island)
My last copy cost fifty cents (bargain).
It is worth $1000. Any second hand bookshop will likely have a copy.
It will have the answers you seek that the doctor wont be addressing.
Your team (professionals and family/friends) each have different roles. Have the courage to trust/be honest with them.
That will open up a path to healing.
Not alone- and well done for reaching out.
I agree with Holt that this is not the best place for considerate assurances…
PM me and we can discuss further.
I would prefer if you could have on hand that book (the Road Less Travelled) as it gives us common language and terms to operate with.
The author covers some of the most impossible things to discuss and has a method of doing so in little four page topics that evolve in an easy to read/understand way.
Spent an hour yesterday reading with my 12 year old… who kept asking me to go on everytime I stopped.
Just dont take it personal if I dont respond to a PM and put up posts on these forums first.
I will respond to a PM in time- but I also use the main forum as a way to relax and it is in part ‘my medicine’ as well.
Touch is vital for reducing stress and feeling alive. A haircut or a massage will have you feeling more in your skin… and if hugs/contact with family and friends isnt on the cards or something you feel happy receiving- spend some coin on a haircut or massage.
Energy flows where attention goes.
Watch Amelie or Secret Life of Walter Mitty or whatever makes you feel human.
(I redo Pink Floyds the wall and American Beauty every other year to really feel emotional/human… but they are heavy movies and I wouldnt feel right to encourage you to watch those ones right now…)
Cant really give advice- dont know the weight of your situation.
Friends give advice/councellors (professional relationship) help by having you see your own skillset in action.
Country and western music is generally the highest calibrated on an emotional scale ranging from grief/apathy up through love/joy/ecstacy/enlightenment energy levels(Power vs Force).
Whilst it isnt my cup of tea (maybe sometimes)- music that celebrates life and surrounding yourself with meaning is practical.
This isget back to basics time.
Tune out of the media. Eg Unplug that aerial.
Wgilst dramatic change moght not be the right thing for you now- clearly some changes are needed.
Choose life and things that support life.
And thanks for allowing us to feel worthwhile and connecting in some small way.
Not alone!
Smiles :’-)
